365 ways to love your husband in 2020

This seemed like such an easy topic to write about as we approach 2020 and Glenn and I just celebrated our first year as Mr. & Mrs. I wanted to share something we can do each day, as Godly wives, to let our husband know we love him. As we act in service, I hope it draws you closer to God and your husband. I cannot wait to see how this year turns out for you and your spouse. Here are 365 ways to love your husband in 2020. Most importantly here are 365 reasons I love my husband and how I show him that I love him.

• Pray for him
• Say “I love you” more
• Ask about his day with real intentionality
• Hold hands in the car
• Leave a love note in his lunch
• Pack his lunch for work
• Make his favorite dish for dinner
• Plan a date
• Greet him with a smile when he comes home
• Make eye contact

• Take a task off his “honey-do” list and do it for him
• Schedule appointments for him
• Tackle the budget with him
• Get his favorite snacks from the store
• Clear his dishes after dinner
• Don’t mention that “sweet spot” between the closet and hamper and just put his clothes in the hamper
• Make your home a haven
• Go to bed at the same time

• Hug daily
• Wake him up with coffee
• Give him a full hobby day
• Buy him a book you know he’ll love
• Call him just to say, “I love you”
• Share a secret
• Send him out with the boys
• Leave a love note in his pocket
• Take the trash out
• Find out his love language
• Tidy up your room

• Let him know how much you love him via text
• Text him during the day about how attractive you find him and he’s your only person
• Compliment him in front of others
• Write him a song
• Volunteer at church together
• Join him in the shower
• A massage
• Kiss him in front of the kids (they need to see a healthy marriage)

• Ask him what he needs to feel valued and loved
• Do his laundry (and actually put it away when it comes out of the dryer)
• Let him sleep in on a Saturday
• Get him a gift he wouldn’t normally spend money on for himself
• Grab his butt when he’s walking by
• Ask him how you can pray for him
• Give him some time to unwind after work

• Go dancing
• Make a bucket list
• Mixtapes aka new playlists never go out of style
• Set your goals together
• Go to a Bible study together
• Make God the center of your marriage
• Ask about his top priorities
• Plan a day trip
• Go see his favorite movie
• Play a board game together

• Sign them up for a class they’ve been wanting to take (how much fun would that be?)
• Schedule in a regular date night (weekly or monthly)
• Give your hubs a list of the things you love about him
• Take over their least favorite chore
• Surprise them with a gift on one of those weirder holidays (I’m looking at you International Bacon Day)
• Send an email mid-day to see how their day is going

• Don’t talk to your friends and family about disagreements
• Always build him up in front of others – talk about how much of an amazing person he is
• Stop shutting down
• Stop saying you’re fine when you’re not
• Ask his opinion frequently
• Respect him as head of the household
• Be trustworthy
• Get creative with how you express your love – no matter what life throws your way

• Be a servant leader 
• Practice more patience
• Skip the condescension
• Take his small problems seriously
• Be interested in his life
• Make him feel like a man
• Set a good example for the kids
• Seek his counsel
• Follow Biblical advice for your relationship
• Create a Biblical outlook for your marriage
• Protect his dignity

• Put your phone down
• Ask him to teach you a hobby of his
• Say “i’m sorry” first
• Put his towel in the dryer for when he gets out of the shower
• Fluff his pillow
• Ask him to study the scriptures with you
• Do your hair the way he likes it
• Make his favorite dessert
• Wear his favorite outfit
• Let go of the minor annoyances

• Commit to being more intimate together more often
• Look at old photos
• Go for a walk together
• Make dinner together
• Hit a concert or local band event
• Learn something new together
• Compliment him to your friends

• Use a kind voice
• Staycation
• Leave a love note on the bathroom mirror
• Date night at home
• Wash his car
• Vacuum the inside of his car
• Get up early to make breakfast
• Fill the gas tank
• Warm his car in the morning
• Dish some compliments to him

• Allow him to express himself freely to you
• Don’t focus on features of other men
• Be aware of his needs and remain sensitive to them
• Create a special time and activity for you to do  as a whole family
• Attend a marriage seminar together
• Don’t ignore the small things that bother him

• Take extra care when he’s sick
• Give him attention over others
• Brag about him to others
• Don’t compare him to others
• Reamin supportive
• Help him reach a goal he has
• Run errands complaint free
• Maintain good grooming habits
• Support him in front of the kids
• Do things that make him feel cherished as your husband

• Let him pick the dinner menu for the week
• Pick him up a treat when you’re out
• Ask his advice & don’t challenge it
• Rub his feet
• Iron his shirts
• Replace something he needs like beard balm
• Call him if you’re running late

• Take a task off his “honey do” list and do it for him
• Schedule appointments for him
• Tackle the budget with him
• Get his favorite snacks from the store
• Clear his dishes after dinner
• Don’t mention that “sweet spot” between the closet and hamper and just put his clothes in the hamper
• Make your home a haven
• Go to bed at the same time

• Watch the sunset
• Have a photoshoot
• Listen without interrupting
• Don’t multi-task when talking to them
• Operate in humility
• Express gratitude
• Take the dog for a walk
• Compliment a project they’ve been working on
• Mail a letter of appreciation to them (nice to get something in the mail other than a bill!)

• Consider his feelings when you’re about to have a disagreement
• Don’t make sudden changes without talking to him
• Tell him you like him as person
• Tell him what you like about him
• Focus on what he’s doing right
• Keep date night, date night. Leave the kid talk and problems at home
• Don’t allow others to disrespect him
• Compliment him to the kids
• Look at dream homes together
• Cuddle on the couch
• Exercise together

• Don’t ask him to perform things that aren’t within his natural abilities
• Push him lovingly
• Respect his ambition
• Make the first hour he’s home positive before diving into anything negative
• Send him to work with coffee
• Have his clothes ready to go for work

• Recreate your first date
• Make foreplay a priority
• Say thank you more
• Have a kid free vacation
• Ask more questions to know him better
• Tech free day
• Couples massage
• Plan the next 5-10 years together
• Double date
• Go stargaze
• Visit your hometowns
• Binge a new series
• Movie marathon
•  Be praiseworthy
• Avoid petty fights
• Let him fail so he can learn something new

• Create family goals
• Allow him to fail without fear of judgement
• Tell him how proud of him you are
• Follow his spiritual lead but don’t be afraid to help him grow
• Notice the things he does for the family
• Ditch habits that annoy him
• Find out what makes him insecure

• Get creative in how you tell him you love him
• Don’t overcommit yourself so you have time for him
• Admit your mistakes
• Let him know he’s needed
• Acknowledge him when he does something for you or the family
• Help him be the spiritual head of the household
• Thank him for being him

• Be his biggest cheerleader
• don’t disagree in front of the kids
• Hide some notes around the house for him to find
• The silent treatment has to go
• Make food from scratch
• Learn a new recipe that he would like
• Choose your words carefully
• Tell him you love him more often

• Value what makes him unique
• Chivalry isn’t dead
• Make him a card & tell him how you feel
• Ask questions about his hobbies
• Frame old photos of y’all
• Love yourself! Confidence is sexy
• Tell your kids what you love about Dad

• Acknowledge the ways you can be a better help-mate
• Have the children’s homework done before he gets home
• Plan a family movie night
• Find mutual friends
• Put your marriage directly after your relationship with God (that means before work,  friends, Church, etc.)
• Refuse to work late consistently
• Encourage him constantly

• Compliment the way he handles a difficult situation
• Thank him for taking good care of you
• Pray for him/with him when he’s stressed
• Talk to him not at him
• Take interest in his friends
• Laugh together
• Take him to breakfast
• Give him grace
• Thank God for him by name when praying

• Keep things to yourself – your friends don’t need to know everything
• Clean his car & fill his gas tank
• Make a “honey do” list with fun stuff to do together
• Let him catch you admiring him

• Ask him how he likes certain things done around the house
• Always be a united front to the kids, friends, etc.
• Trust him with the finances
• Making the family a priority
• Run his shower for him
• Make faith a priority in your home
• Communicate with him with respect
• Tell him about what you find important
• Tell him what caught your eye about him when y’all first met
• Get him a sneaky gift card to his favorite restaurant and put it in his wallet
• Don’t go to bed angry
• Submit as the Church submits to Jesus

• Drop a love note in his work pants or briefcase
• Ditch the “I told you so” attitude and phrase
• Hang out while he watches TV – I promise eventually you’ll love Live PD
• Initiate marital relations
• Let him have a relaxing day at home on his day off instead of assigning tasks around the house
• Skip some of the details in your story and get straight to the point (unless he loves little details)
• Don’t argue over word choice

• Give him the benefit of the doubt
• Be kinder to him than you are to strangers
• Don’t ask for praise or credit when you do things for him
• Never insult his intelligence
• Enjoy an activity together without talking – some men prefer to be and not talk
• Keep conversations short after work – he’s tired
• Don’t nag him about things

• Set realistic expectations
• Make your husband priority number one over the kids
• Give him space in his own home
• Ditch the sweatpants when he’s home
• Smile more
• Let him pack the car for road trips, vacations, etc.
• Let him drive
• Ask if he needs anything from the store
• Respond to him with enthusiasm
• Don’t compare him to other men
• Grab a record of his favorite artist
• Ask about how you can pray for his career

• Honor the man he is becoming
• Ditch the “I told you so” attitude and phrase
• Hang out while he watches TV – I promise eventually you’ll love Live PD
• Initiate marital relations
• Let him have a relaxing day at home on his day off instead of assigning tasks around the house
• Skip some of the details in your story and get straight to the point (unless he loves little details)
• Don’t argue over word choice

• Respect his things
• Let him open his own mail unless he specifies otherwise
• Give him ample warning about family activities and planned events
• Have a mid-day lunch when he’s working
• Get up either when he does or before he does
• Meet his co-workers and speak kindly of them and him in front of them
• Don’t do anything to embarrass him
• Give him patience

• Love him unconditionally
• Love him sacrificially
• Love him actively
• Be intentional
• Be available
• Spice it up in the bedroom
• Flirt with him
• Avoid being critical
• Accommodate differences
• Set up boundaries so you can have a healthy relationship
• Meet with your Pastor to strengthen your relationship
• Toast to him at a dinner party
• Leave a love note in sidewalk chalk
• Educate yourself on how to be a kick-butt wife
• Kiss him often
• Remind him how handsome he is
• Give your spouse your best
• Don’t be afraid to admit when you’re not your best
• Ask for his help when you need it

• Tidy the house before he walks through the door
• Ask him what he wants to do
• Offer self-control when talking to him
• Ask for his forgiveness
• Ask him what he needs in a wife
• Trust God more
• Spend money wisely
• Choose love always
• Hold him
• Commend him for becoming more Christ-like in something he’s been working on
• Ask about his dreams

• Tell him what you love about his bedroom prowess
• Ask God to reveal how incredible your husband truly is
• Have your children express why they love him
• Ask about what he wants to do when y’all retire
• Buy him something he can use in his hobby or passion project
• Celebrate every accomplishment big or small
• Prep dinner for him on nights you won’t be home for dinner so he can easily have your home cooking
• Leave encouragement in scripture form in his pockets, lunch, etc.
• Be his friend
• Don’t assume he can read your mind
• Think before you act
• Be his wife not the Holy Ghost
• Pray before addressing anything negative
• Don’t take him for granted

• Go camping
• Stay in bed all day together
• Road trip
• Slow dance often
• Visit a B&B
• A read book together
• Think about the thing that annoys you most about him & let it go
• Volunteer together
• Create a new tradition
• Preserve your dignity
• Take care of your home
• Don’t be a lazy wife
• Honor the man he is becoming
• Don’t allow friends to have influence over your relationship

• Give him the benefit of the doubt
• Be kinder to him than you are to strangers
• Don’t ask for praise or credit when you do things for him
• Never insult his intelligence
• Enjoy an activity together without talking – some men prefer to be and not talk
• Keep conversations short after work – he’s tired
• Don’t nag him about things

• Do something to help him de-stress daily
• Help him shop for new clothes
• Tell him what makes him a great husband and father
• Serve him breakfast in bed
• Coffee in bed goes a long way
• Do things without mentioning it
• Be quick to respond when he needs help
• Light some candles before he gets home
• Be a blessing
• Call in dinner for him when he’s working late
• Let him get a nap in (take the kids out of the house if need be)
• Be sincere
• Leave no dishes in the sink so you can wake up to a clean kitchen
• Give the kids an early bedtime so you can get more alone time on the weekdays
• Remind him he’s worth it
• Snuggle under a blanket together
• Scavenger hunt date night
• Add some lavender to the sheets so he can get a good night’s sleep
• Show him you’re really in this together
• Text less and call him more (that doesn’t mean call him all day at work)
• Lay in bed and talk at night

365. Treat him like he’s your best friend because he is

Y’all I am not perfect at a single thing on this list but I’m trying and I’ll keep trying until the day I die because my husband deserves my best always.

One thing I’m doing to draw closer to him and Him is a 30 day prayer challenge to be a better wife to Glenn. You can join us for free if you’re ready to be a “Wife After God.”  I’d love to have you with us! It’s totally free and we kick off in 2 weeks! I’ll see you there!

P.S. Leave a comment below & tell me how you love your spouse or what area you’re excited to work on!

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