Creating discipleship conversations doesn’t have to be complicated. In fact, it can be as simple as sitting down with a cup of coffee and chatting about life. The important thing is that you’re intentional about seeking out opportunities to grow in your faith alongside the women in your life. Here are a few tips for how to get started.
1. Pray for guidance.
Before you sit down with someone for coffee, take a moment to pray and ask God to give you wisdom and grace. Praying for discipleship conversations will help you to see opportunities that you might otherwise miss.
2. Look for natural conversation starters.
You don’t always need a grandiose plan for how to broach the topic of faith. Sometimes, simply watching for natural discipleship conversation starters is enough. For example, if someone mentions that they’re struggling with a particular issue, that’s an opportunity to share how your faith has helped you to overcome similar challenges. Let the Lord guide your tongue as you have these conversations. Col. 4:6 (NIV) says, “Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.”
3. Ask questions and listen more than you talk.
Once you’re in a discipleship conversation, resist the temptation to do all the talking! Instead, make it a point to ask questions and really listen to what the other person has to say. Not only will this help you get to know them better, but it will also give you insight into how God might be working in their life. Active Listening will be your best friend here. Active Listening is when you listen with all of your senses. What are they saying and what is their body language saying? You don’t need to be an expert just attentive.
4. Share your own testimony.
As you get to know someone better and feel more comfortable sharing your faith with them, don’t be afraid to share your own testimony of how God has worked in your life. Hearing about how others have experienced God’s faithfulness can be a powerful way of planting seeds of faith in someone else’s heart. I have friends who do not believe in Christ but I always take a moment to share how God is working in me and through me whenever they are going through something and I can help.
5. Offer prayer and resources.
I am the queen of recommending books, blogs, podcasts, courses, etc. And if they seem receptive, offer up some resources (like this blog!) that might be helpful for them as they grow in their faith. If you’re ever at a loss for what to say next in a conversation, simply ask if you can pray for them. Praying for someone is always a beautiful way to show them God’s love.
Discipleship conversations don’t have to be complicated or formal. Just relax, be yourself, and let the Lord lead the way. He will give you the words to say when it’s time to speak up, and He will nudge you to listen more when that’s what’s needed. Trust Him, and enjoy getting to know the women He has placed in your life!
Simply put, discipleship is about encouraging one another to grow in our relationship with Christ. By taking the time to have regular discipleship conversations with the women in your life, you can create an environment where everyone feels supported and encouraged in their faith journey. So go ahead and reach out to that friend or neighbor today – you never know what God might do through your conversation!